A wonderful site from a young woman born in Busan, South Korea whose story is about international adoption and searching for identity.
The priority is not to find the perfect child for an adoptive family. There is no catalog; we are not Sears. The ultimate goal should always be to find the best fit for the child who is in need. Child first. Do you know why? Because they are the most vulnerable party in any adoption and they are not able to advocate for their short-term needs, let alone their entire lifetime needs.
I hope this rhetoric dies, “He/she is so lucky to have you both as parents! You rescued him/her from such a terrible life.” One of my absolute favorite women who happens to be an adoptive mother of a transnational and transracial daughter told me once how she always responded to that kind of garbage, “No. We are the lucky ones. We’re lucky that we get to be her parents.”
She recognizes the foundational belief that her daughter does…
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